To Love or Not To Love
“Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused.” — Paulo Coelho
To love or not to love… This is one of the most intimate question young lovers ask themselves. In most cases so many of them find it very emotional into their very first relationships. And usually the confusion comes in where someone naively fails to fully wrap their heads round the driving forces behind a workable relationship.
Trust
Love demands a lot say “Trust” Many young lovers want partners they can trust. How do they define trust? In most relationships trust is mostly centered on sex. Does my partner have sex with me alone? Can I trust him/her with my life? This comes into mind when considering STDs. What about if he makes me pregnant? Will he keep around? What about if she becomes pregnant? Can I trust her that the baby is mine?
Commitments
Love also comes with Commitments. A partner may not understand the other’s busy schedules away from home, if he can not spare a moment to call or fails to pick up. So many lovers will feel unloved if they’re not given attention in moments when they need it. To some lovers, commitment some time means being available all the time. A business schedule at the expense of a birthday party may lead to mistrust, fights and infidelity. One big question of loyalty is answered by commitment.
However, commitment can be very hard to give in a relationship and may spell doom in a love affair.
Communication
An introvert lover maybe judged for being full of himself/herself (Selfish). It may be worse if he’s not articulate enough to explain his situation. In most cases where communication is low, we experience situations of anger which can culminate into fights and violence.
Talking about love… What is love. Without giving a scholarly definition I would state that love is very unconditional. Someone who said it’s blind was right. When someone loves you, he/she will do anything for you to make you happy or better.
In my personal opinion, jealousy in love is a normal phenomenon but if it reaches the extent of harming the other person, I don’t consider it to be love anymore. A person you love is treated as delicate (like a glass) When the person you love smiles and is happy, it gives a feeling of peace. You always don’t want to be away or without that person of your heart. Sometimes you don’t see their mistakes or flows. You want them to have the best life can give.
Friendship
The most important thing to give in love is “Friendship” Most people think they have fallen in love because someone can afford to buy them the latest iPhone on the market or because she’s so good looking. How you are connected is very important. When you’re not friends in a relationship, you can’t claim to be in love. Friends step out of the way to make life for the other seem simple to live. “A friend in Need… is a friend Indeed.” This starts with love partners. A lot can be said about “love or not love” and I believe this subject is unlimited in scope. If you have been in a nice relationship with some good underpinning between the two of you, consider it love. Let’s put it to discussion. I’ll wait for opinions here. Good luck.
